Birth – Rewind
Have you had a baby?
Do you find it difficult talking about your birth?
Do you laugh off your disastrous birth experience, claiming you couldn’t make it up if you tried, it was one thing after another?
Do you secretly resent others who had the birth you imagined you’d have?
Are you finding yourself justifying your negative experience with phrases such as ‘At least the baby’s ok, that’s all that matters’?
If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of these questions, chances are you have had a difficult birth experience and whilst it is totally normal to feel this way about your baby’s birth, it is NOT ok to feel this way. It’s especially not ok if you are finding your negative thoughts are:
- Affect the way you interact with your baby and others around you
- Are affecting how you feel about the birth of your 2nd or subsequent baby
- Are preventing you from trying for another baby
- Making you feel anxious in any way
When we experience a stressful event, the Amygdala – the part of the brain responsible for fight or flight goes into overdrive with the specific aim of getting us to move and get to safety. Ordinarily, when this happens, you would move! Very quickly! to get away from the perceived danger – this is how we were able to survive when Sabre-tooth Tigers walked the earth, so we wouldn’t become their lunch! However, when you are in the process of giving birth – or if something is going on during your pregnancy or once your baby has been born (in other words the whole perinatal period) there is nowhere you can actually go – so the amygdala continuously sends adrenalin surging round and round your body with no way of releasing it. This suspends all logical functioning and the hippocampus – the part of the brain that usually sends experiences to your long-term memory stops working. This means that the experience of your birth stays in your frontal lobe, making your body think it is still happening, which sends the amygdala into overdrive again – because you still can’t run away anywhere – hence creating an intolerable amount of anxiety and stress.
Over time, because the memory remains un-processed, you may find yourself triggered by unrelated circumstances. For example, the beeping of the supermarket checkout machine reminds you of the beeping of the machines in the hospital, so your find yourself becoming extremely stressed when doing the weekly shop. Or perhaps you find yourself unable to walk past the hospital because of what happened there, meaning you must find a different way of walking to the park.
The Next Step...
The 3-Step Rewind is a combination of techniques which helps these experiences to process into your long-term memory. You won’t forget they happened but you will find you are no longer emotionally triggered by your experience and able to move on from the experience.
Dani, an experienced antenatal educator, hypnotherapist, and Master NLP practitioner will take you through the steps via zoom over 3, hour long sessions which are usually spaced about a week apart.